I have to admit–I hesitated to write this story. We probably will never know the entire truth behind Samuel Joy’s “spite” tombstone, and that bothers me.
If a spite tombstone is new to you, know it is a cemetery monument placed to annoy, hurt or offend someone still living, or to make an eternal statement. Usually the grievousness takes the form of the words carved into the stone, as it does in this case. You don’t see many of these revenge markers as public cemeteries often have rules against allowing such monuments to be placed.
The Samuel Joy spite tombstone is unusual but it’s not the only one in New Hampshire. A very different spite stone was placed on Caroline Cutter’s grave in Milford, New Hampshire in 1838. Her husband, Dr. Calvin Cutter had it carved as his way of censuring a local church. Perhaps there are other grievances carved in New Hampshire stone, but I leave it to my readers to let me know about them. Continue reading





